It’s Hard Work Letting Go

I believe that supporting my community means welcoming hard work, connecting to good people, and living & loving passionately. I seek conviction – rock solid belief that come hell or high water, we’re not only going to pull through but also grow. I believe that there is something greater that wants the very best for all of us and I have found that everything It wants me to do is at least two steps outside of my comfort zone.

Willingness is everything. It’s not about what you want. It’s about how bad you want it and what you’re willing to do to get it. It takes courage to have a dream and pursue it. It takes wisdom attained from painful experience to recognize that you’ll never truly be in control of how your dreams come to fruition.

It starts with you but that’s just the beginning. There’s no such thing as a “self made man.”Any successful person will tell you that it’s who you surround yourself with. Any spiritual person will tell you that if your Higher Power’s not on board with the plan, it’s not going to work. The hard part is how to know whether we’re moving in the direction that the Universe would have us go.


I worked with a woman years ago who explained her spiritual beliefs through a game on The Price Is Right. In the game, one drops a disc down a long board of twists and turns and the discs drop into a winning slot. She explained to me that her job was to gather the disks and put them in motion. She had to be willing to follow them wherever they went because trying to direct them was like herding cats and she found that every time she let go, things fell into place. There is no clearer sign that we’re moving in the right direction then when things simply work themselves out.

Secure in my Insecurity

The God of my understanding gives me every form of security except financial. I have found that the less I pay attention to my bank balance the more sanity I retain. I believe in hard work but the joy of being self employed is that this doesn’t always manifest as a paycheck. Somehow there is always enough. Sometimes we borrow it and sometimes it’s a windfall. I can’t explain it; there’s just always enough.

Go with the Flow

I have repeatedly found that good things will fall into my lap if I let them. Years ago I had a college student show up at an agency I was working for. With unbridled enthusiasm he said, “I’m ready to go!” I smiled and said, “That’s great. I just need to know who the hell you are and where the hell we’re going.” He’d been promised an internship with me and no one had bothered to tell me. The first lesson of his internship was that things don’t go as planned but if you’re open to it they can turn out better than planned.

“Accept, then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.” ~Eckhart Tolle


The greatest gift God gives me is people. I wish I was half as clever as to have chosen the folks who are in my life today but I am not. Most of the best people in my life aren’t around because I chose them. They just showed up and I took an interest and didn’t resist. I could talk for days about the people I hold dear but one of them summed it up nicely in a recent Facebook update of all things:

“People have often asked me how I do all I do in a day. This is my old lady secret…I go to bed at 8pm every chance I get. I watch almost no TV & I work from wake up to pass out. If I’m up late it’s for work. I work to pay the bills, I work to pay it forward in my community, I work to give my kids my all & I work for joy. If you don’t love what you are doing you won’t fight to do more of it. So find that spark & chase it like crazy. I for one, can always sleep when I’m dead….or like tonight, before my teenager has even thought of bedtime. ;)”

– Felicia Richard of of Chef On Demand(Check them out for the best custom chef service in Maine)

It’s nice being at an age where clichés ring true for me. It does take a village. It takes willingness from all of us to move our attention from the problems toward the solutions. It takes people who are willing to work hard, make connections, and live and love passionately. People like you.


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About Jim LaPierre

Jim LaPierre LCSW CCS is the Executive Director of Higher Ground Services in Brewer, Maine. He is a Recovery Ally, mental health therapist and addictions counselor. He specializes in facilitating recovery (whether from addiction, trauma, depression, anxiety, or past abuse) overcome obstacles, and improve their quality of life. Jim offers a limited amount of online therapy to those with very flexible schedules.